What Sufferings Are Not Gifts?

Watching this interview between Colbert and Anderson Cooper, I am reminded of the great quote attributed to Charlie Chaplin:
“To truly laugh, you must be able to take your pain and play with it.”

Colbert is one of the masters of this, and always has been. And it was years ago now that I first read a magazine piece about the deaths they talk about in this video.

That deep pain is one of the things that has driven him throughout his life.

But, as you can see in this interview, it’s also the thing that has driven him forward to become the person he is today.

I talk a lot about the concept: “Follow Your Heartbreak.” What does it mean?

Rather than running from suffering and pain, listen to it and allow it to speak to you. That’s what Chaplin was saying in that quote. Or, that’s what Jesus does during Holy Week.

Chaplin, Colbert…and yes, even Jesus…knew that there here is no way *around* suffering…only “through” it.

But, there is a “gift” that comes.

The suffering doesn’t happen “so that” we can get the gift. The suffering just “happens.”

Happens, as Colbert reminds us here, to ALL of us.

The gift that comes is…compassion…love…empathy…and understanding that, eventually, suffering is universal and no one escapes it.

This is the powerful meditation on the “gift” of suffering causes Anderson Cooper to tear up. (He, of course, has his own story of overcoming suffering. And you can’t help but wonder if that was on his mind too…)

You see, this is why I’ve always said that I can’t trust folks who can’t laugh at themselves and the world.

Because if you can’t at some level laugh at the ridiculousness of it all —even the suffering of life— then you are probably still not reconciled with your *own* suffering. Even worse, you are likely to manifest that denial by projecting your own suffering on to others in harmful ways.

Comedy…theology….music…writing…art….it’s all getting at a common thread of our humanity– How do we come to terms with the suffering of our world, and what are we going to do about it?

Are there ways you can redeem your own suffering —by the things you do with your life and time— that can create something beautiful for the world?

That’s what it means to “Follow Your Heartbreak.”

Stephen Colbert is a perfect example of this, and I hope you’ll watch this beautiful little video clip.

 

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Eric Folkerth is a minister, musician, author and blogger. He is Senior Pastor of Kessler Park UMC United Methodist Church in Dallas, Texas. Previously, he was pastor at Northaven UMC in Dallas for seventeen years. Eric loves to write on topics of spirituality, social justice, music/art and politics. The entries on this blog reflect that diversity of interests. His passion for social justice goes beyond mere words. Eric was arrested at the White House, defending immigrants and “The Dreamers;” and he’s officiated at same sex weddings. Eric was the 2017 recipient of the prestigeous Kuchling Humanitarian Award from Dallas’ Black Tie Dinner. (Human Rights Campaign) Eric has led or co-led hundreds of persons on mission trips to build houses and bring medical care around the globe, to places such as Mexico, Haiti, Russia, Guatemala, and Nepal. He is proud of have shephereded Highland Park UMC's construction of ten Habitat for Humanity homes, (and one Community Center) and helped forge an alliance with Habitat that led to the construction of 100 homes in Dallas, housing thousands of people. His wife, Justice Dennise Garcia, has 20 years experience as a state district judge and appelate justice in North Texas. First elected in 2004, she was the first Latina ever elected to a Dallas County state district bench, and she she left that position whe was the longest currently serving district judge. In 2020 Dennise Garcia was a elected as a Justice of the 5th District Court of Appeals for Texas. She is currently running to be Chief of the 5th District Court of Appeals in the 2024 cycle. They have the world’s best daughter, Maria, who is a practicing professional counselor in Dallas. Find links to Eric’s music-related websites, at the top of this site’s navigation menu.

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