These Rooms

We take Maria to college tomorrow. All week, I’ve been posting links to songs that speak to me in this moment of transition and change for all of us. Here’s another, very personal one.

Many years ago, I wrote a song for Maria. It was recorded and released years ago. But I put down a live version, just yesterday.

It’s a song that was inspired by this very moment here…

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I’ve said for years that it seems to me Mothers are made, step-by-step, moment-by-moment of those nine months. Mothers cannot help but know and understand that something big is happening to them and to their life. Unlike Fathers, who can go off to work and kind of forget that a baby is on the way, Mothers are physically reminded of the changes in every moment.

Fathers are made all at once. They are made in that moment when the baby arrives, takes its first breath, and suddenly a Father knows they are also a part of that physical experience of having a child. There’s a huge sense of immediate connection and powerful love.

At least, that’s how it happened for me. (And I’ve heard many other Fathers describe a similar experience…)

Suddenly, and surprisingly –in those first moments you see pictured here– there were whole new rooms in my heart I had never known were there before. Big huge spaces where big huge love roared in. Wide open spaces that invited me to live in to them…to lean into them. Places that are now not new, but comfortable and familiar, with the experience of eighteen years of life.

I  love being Maria’s Dad. I’m so ridiculously proud of who she is and who she is yet to become.

I love the fact that these rooms just keep getting bigger all the time.

And I know that even in this time of change, there are new rooms still to be found.

And I’m grateful for that too.

 

 

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Eric Folkerth is a minister, musician, author and blogger. He has been Senior Pastor of Northaven United Methodist Church in Dallas, Texas since 2001. During his tenure, church membership has grown almost 30 percent, and a completely new church facility (sanctuary and education building) has been constructed. Northaven is a leading progressive Christian congregation in the Southwest. Northaven is an eclectic collection of gay and straight families, artists, musicians, theater folks, academic theologians, lawyers and judges (go figure), socially conscious community activists, people who don't "check their brain at the door," and a wide array of others who either see it as their "last chance" inside the "institutional church," or their first trip back in decades. Eric is an avid blogger and published author.  Eric is also an award-winning singer-songwriter, who performs throughout Texas and the Southwest. He's an engaging live performer whose first CD was released in 2000. His songs have won honorable mention in both the Billboard and Great American song contests; and he's been a finalist in the 5th Street Festival and South Florida Folk Festival songwriter competitions. Eric is also a leader of Connections, a unique band comprised of United Methodist clergy and layfolk from throughout North Texas. Connections performs "cover shows" of artists like Dan Fogelberg, Chicago, Eagles, Doobie Brothers, Billy Joel, Stevie Wonder, James Taylor and others. Their shows draw crowds of between 300 and 1,000 fans, and they have raised more than $240,000 dollars for worthy charities. Eric has led or co-led hundreds of persons on mission trips around the globe, to places such as Mexico, Haiti, Russia, and Nepal. He has worked with lay persons to build ten homes, and one Community Center, in partnership with Habitat for Humanity of Dallas. He's a popular preacher, and often tackles challenging issues of social justice in his writings and sermons. His wife, Judge Dennise Garcia, is a State District Judge for Dallas, County. As judge of the 303rd Family District Court, she consistently gets high ratings from area lawyers, and was named "best judge" by The Dallas Observer. First elected in 2004, she was the first Latina ever elected to a county-wide bench in Dallas County. She was re-elected for a third term in 2010. They have the world's best daughter, Maria, and an incredible dog, Daisy. (As always, if you like this post, then "like" this on Facebook by clicking the box below, so others can see too...)

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