These Rooms

We take Maria to college tomorrow. All week, I’ve been posting links to songs that speak to me in this moment of transition and change for all of us. Here’s another, very personal one.

Many years ago, I wrote a song for Maria. It was recorded and released years ago. But I put down a live version, just yesterday.

It’s a song that was inspired by this very moment here…

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I’ve said for years that it seems to me Mothers are made, step-by-step, moment-by-moment of those nine months. Mothers cannot help but know and understand that something big is happening to them and to their life. Unlike Fathers, who can go off to work and kind of forget that a baby is on the way, Mothers are physically reminded of the changes in every moment.

Fathers are made all at once. They are made in that moment when the baby arrives, takes its first breath, and suddenly a Father knows they are also a part of that physical experience of having a child. There’s a huge sense of immediate connection and powerful love.

At least, that’s how it happened for me. (And I’ve heard many other Fathers describe a similar experience…)

Suddenly, and surprisingly –in those first moments you see pictured here– there were whole new rooms in my heart I had never known were there before. Big huge spaces where big huge love roared in. Wide open spaces that invited me to live in to them…to lean into them. Places that are now not new, but comfortable and familiar, with the experience of eighteen years of life.

I  love being Maria’s Dad. I’m so ridiculously proud of who she is and who she is yet to become.

I love the fact that these rooms just keep getting bigger all the time.

And I know that even in this time of change, there are new rooms still to be found.

And I’m grateful for that too.



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Eric Folkerth is a minister, musician, author and blogger. He is Senior Pastor of Kessler Park UMC United Methodist Church in Dallas, Texas. Previously, he was pastor at Northaven UMC in Dallas for seventeen years. Eric loves to write on topics of spirituality, social justice, music/art and politics. The entries on this blog reflect that diversity of interests. His passion for social justice goes beyond mere words. He’s been arrested at the White House, defending immigrants and “The Dreamers,” and he’s officiated at same sex weddings in his churches, in defiance of what some believe is Methodist teaching. Eric is an avid blogger and published author, and 2017 recipient of the prestigeous Kuchling Humanitarian Award from Dallas’ Black Tie Dinner. (Human Rights Campaign) Eric has led or co-led hundreds of persons on mission trips around the globe, to places such as Mexico, Haiti, Russia, and Nepal. He has worked with lay persons to build ten homes, and one Community Center, in partnership with Habitat for Humanity of Dallas. He’s a popular preacher, and often tackles challenging issues of social justice in his writings and sermons. His wife, Judge Dennise Garcia, is a State District Judge for Dallas, County. As judge of the 303rd Family District Court, she consistently gets high ratings from area lawyers, and was named “best judge” by The Dallas Observer. First elected in 2004, she was the first Latina ever elected to a county-wide bench in Dallas County, and is currently the longest service district judge in that district. She was re-elected for a fourth term in 2018. They have the world’s best daughter, Maria, and an incredible dog, Daisy. Find links to Eric’s music-related websites, at the top of this site’s navigation menu.

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