Rev. Bill McElvaney Intends to Perform Same Sex Weddings

As a part of the “Follow Your Heartbreak” series at Northaven Church this morning, Rev. Bill McElvaney has announced his intention to preside at same sex weddings. The full text of this remarks is below.

Rev. McElvaney is a retired United Methodist Elder, and emeritus pastor of Northaven Church. In addition to a successful pastoral career, he also served for many years as professor of preaching at Perkins School of Theology, and as President of St. Paul School of Theology.

In 2013, he was award the “Distinguished Alumni Award” from Perkins School of Theology.

Click here for a pdf of this statement

January 19, 2014

34How could there not be widespread heartbreak in the United Methodist Church? For more than forty years the UMC has wandered in the wilderness of exclusion, treating gays, lesbians, bisexual and transgender persons as second-class citizens, unworthy to receive pastoral blessings for marriage, although clergy are authorized to bless animals and athletic events.   According to official church policy, GLBT persons are not eligible for ordination and are treated as threats to church unity because of “loving the wrong neighbor.”

Recently a United Methodist pastor in good standing in the Eastern Pennsylvania Conference was brought to trial, an action permissible in the United Methodist Book of Discipline.  He was charged with disobedience and relieved of his ministerial orders for officiating at his son’s wedding to his same sex partner (not the first time that a similar trial resulted in the same results . . . remember Jimmy Creech?)  These inhumane actions by the UMC, favoring law over love, the Book of Discipline over the Book of Discipleship—that is, the New Testament—cruelty over compassion, constitute the Methodist version of Inquisition in the 20th and 21st centuries.

How indebted I am to GLBT persons at Northaven for serving as my mentors, helping me to understand more clearly the ABC’s of your social reality, or in plain language, what’s it like to walk in your shoes.  You and the grace of God have emboldened me to speak out from heartbreak for inclusion in the UMC.  Your mentoring encouraged me to tell the story of Northaven’s becoming a reconciling congregation from my point of view in my book, Becoming a Justice Seeking Congregation.  To be a friend is to become an advocate, one who by word and deed translates heartbreak into pastoral and prophetic action.

So today I’m making an announcement that heartbreak has led me to initiate another step of advocacy and solidarity with the GLBT community.  Namely, I would consider it a privilege to officiate at a same sex wedding even though the marriage is not legal under civil law in Texas.  In making this declaration I do not assume that all GLBT persons want to get married.  I fully support those who have opted for a special marriage weekend in states where your marriage is legal.  Makes sense to me and sounds like fun and festivity.  That said, there might be some who would desire to explore the possibility of a religious service utilizing appropriate biblical and theological language.

Rest assured that I will not take any action that would bring harm to Northaven or to Eric.  This means that a service of same sex celebration would need to happen beyond Northaven property.  I’m not entirely at peace with this arrangement because it suggests that I accept the church’s authority to make this demand.  I would hold my nose and gladly officiate elsewhere in order to be hand in hand with those seeking a religious oriented event.  Eric has been in conversation with more than one neighborhood congregation who would likely welcome a Methodist-performed service in their facility, a witness that says, “Look, a Methodist minister can do this service at a church of another tradition, why not in the UMC?”

There is growing action among U.M. clergy to follow the lead of Bishop Mel Talbert in acting as though the exclusionary provisions of the Book of Discipline will not be recognized or obeyed.  There is no way the UMC can bring charges and trials against hundreds of clergy– too time consuming, too expensive.  I realize that as a retired clergy I have less to lose than clergy under active appointment.  Even so there’s no way to know where leading a same sex service of marriage beyond Northaven premises might lead.  Charges against me?  A trial?  Loss of ministerial credentials and pension?

Who knows?  No telling where this might lead.  But isn’t this uncertainty characteristic of God’s calling us to be faithful to the Gospel of inclusion?  What I do know is that all of these vulnerabilities pale in comparison to standing fully, and if necessary, sacrificially with the Gospel of inclusion and with those denied equality and respect. I welcome other Texas U.M. clergy, active or retired, to consider a new action in moving the UMC to greater inclusiveness.  Each clergy person must make his or her own decision as to how best to work and witness for a church of unconditional love.

This is much more than an issue to be addressed.  It’s all about acceptance as human beings, about not having one’s worth voted on by peers who believe a few scriptural passages formed by the apostle Paul are more authoritative than the numerous persuasive and powerful texts lifting up God’s radical love through Jesus Christ.  According to biblical scholars whom I consider to be best informed, Paul’s generation had no knowledge or awareness of long-term consensual same sex loving relationships.  For Christians serious New Testament inquiry and authority begin and end with Jesus, not with Paul.

When through the grace of God and our faithfulness, as well as others, the UMC becomes the church it is meant to be, emphasizing love over law, there will be reconciliation possible within our church, transformative truth and power to engage the world, joy in heaven and on earth, angels dancing and most of all, healing for the heartbreak of God.

Please also read Eric Folkerth’s statement from today.

Also, a complete list of media coverage of Bill’s announcement.

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Eric Folkerth is a minister, musician, author and blogger. He is Senior Pastor of Kessler Park UMC United Methodist Church in Dallas, Texas. Previously, he was pastor at Northaven UMC in Dallas for seventeen years. Eric loves to write on topics of spirituality, social justice, music/art and politics. The entries on this blog reflect that diversity of interests. His passion for social justice goes beyond mere words. He’s been arrested at the White House, defending immigrants and “The Dreamers,” and he’s officiated at same sex weddings in his churches, in defiance of what some believe is Methodist teaching. Eric is an avid blogger and published author, and 2017 recipient of the prestigeous Kuchling Humanitarian Award from Dallas’ Black Tie Dinner. (Human Rights Campaign) Eric has led or co-led hundreds of persons on mission trips around the globe, to places such as Mexico, Haiti, Russia, and Nepal. He has worked with lay persons to build ten homes, and one Community Center, in partnership with Habitat for Humanity of Dallas. He’s a popular preacher, and often tackles challenging issues of social justice in his writings and sermons. His wife, Judge Dennise Garcia, is a State District Judge for Dallas, County. As judge of the 303rd Family District Court, she consistently gets high ratings from area lawyers, and was named “best judge” by The Dallas Observer. First elected in 2004, she was the first Latina ever elected to a county-wide bench in Dallas County, and is currently the longest service district judge in that district. She was re-elected for a fourth term in 2018. They have the world’s best daughter, Maria, and an incredible dog, Daisy. Find links to Eric’s music-related websites, at the top of this site’s navigation menu.

4 thoughts on “Rev. Bill McElvaney Intends to Perform Same Sex Weddings

  1. Thank you Bill – I honor and respect you and Northaven UMC for many many reasons, this is just the newest one. The UMC is embarrassingly, shamefully, wrong on their denial of gay clergy and weddings and for that reason, I will never join a UMC church while the embargo is in place. I am not a second class citizen, and won’t support any organization whose rules treat me as one. “Book of Discipline” indeed. God love you Bill.

  2. HI Dr. McElvaney, I applaud your decision to start performing same gender marriages. I would only respectfully ask, there have been many Methodist ministers who have been doing so since 1995 and the emergence of reconciling congregations. May I ask what has prompted your decision to now enter into the same arena as these other brave clergy who have been at this for nearly a decade? Seems like heartbreak has been ongoing for a long time within the UMC specifically as regards our same gendered brothers and sisters. God bless.

  3. Rev. Bill, I applaud your stand on gay marriage and your willingness to take a serious risk in performing same sex ceremonies. As a gay man myself and a former Northaven member, my personal feelings go much deeper than just same sex marriage, and the multiple statements against homosexuality found in the Book of Discipline also go beyond just marriage as well. I feel like the core of me as a person is not valued by the Methodist Church or any so-called Christian church. I’ve given up on believing and hoping that I’ll be accepted by the Church and have all but renounced my faith in God and in Jesus Christ as a result of spending a life of second-class status, or worse, in the Methodist denomination.

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