Pulled Over By A Cop Car On the Bike Trail

Far too often, we hide behind masks of status, role, function. Sometimes power.

Far too often, we are walking/talking stereotypes. We regress to mean, even those of us who like to think of ourselves as edgy or “alternative.” (Have you ever noticed how much marketing is done to “alternative” people? It’s big business, like everything else…)

But every now and then, a bit of our humanity slips from behind these masks. Every now and then, the masks fall, we get to peer in, and see the real human beings behind.

I got pulled over by a cop car on the hike/bike trail last night. Yep. You heard me right.

And, strangely, that’s what got me thinking about all this.

I was a mere 200 yards from my car when it happened. I could literally see it in front of me; when, lo,  I looked behind to see a cop car, lights flashing, driving up the trail behind me and my ten speed.

Needless to say, this is not something you see every day. (1)

My first thought: I’m gonna get a ticket.

You see(confession time), I haven’t had real great luck with tickets for, say, the past six/seven years. I’ve gotten a lot of ’em. So many, my license was suspended for a time.(2)

They’re all paid off now. (Yes, I paid three years of those state fees, before the Legislature did away with them. It was, literally thousands of dollars…) It changed me. I’m a much more careful/mindful driver now. Or, I try to be.

So, as I look behind at the cop car closing in, I have a sinking feeling: I’m going to be the only human being ever ticketed by a cop car on the bike trail. Dennise is gonna kill me, die laughing, or both.

To set the scene…

I’d been riding around White Rock Lake. Seven miles down the White Rock Creek Trail. Around the lake and back. (23 mile total trip)

Got to the last 1/4 mile, at the LBJ Freeway underpass. As many here in Dallas will know,  LBJ is being widened, and there are closings up and down this stretch all the time. The trail crosses under LBJ right at Park Central (across from Watermark Church).

I did indeed note a cop car sitting on the bike trail, just under the LBJ bridge, with its lights on. The surface street, however, appeared to be completely open. No barriers. No police. No construction. So, my thought was “They’re closing the bike trail, for some reason.”

So, I hopped off the trail and onto the road, crossed under, and headed for the last few feet of the trip.

What I know now is that they were getting ready for all-night construction. Probably moments after this encounter, there were workers all over the place, and the street was probably blocked off too.

I got to the other side, and there was a barrier across the trail. That probably should been a sign to stop.

But, as I said, I had less than 1/4 mile to go. Around a tree-lined curve, and one final footbridge, there’s Valley View Park, and the parking lot with my car.

But! Just beyond this final little bridge, was another cop car; this one sitting on the trail, faced the way I was riding, blocking traffic from coming toward me.

Uh oh, I thought. But I drove around it, hopefully.

An instant later, the lights were flashing, the car’s driving up the bike trail toward me.

Pulled over by a cop car on the bike trail.

That’s a good enough story to share with you here. But here’s where things actually got interesting. I knew I was dead to rights. I know what cops are like. You do too, right? At the very least, I was about to get lectured.

Sure enough, the cop got out, stereotype to the “T.” Reflective shades. Short-cropped blond hair. Crisp, black uniform, with lots of impressive looking medals.

He started in…

“Do you have some ID?” (“Yes, sir. My drivers license. Right here.”)

“Can you tell me why you kept going?” (“I didn’t realize the trail was closed until I crossed LBJ, and by then I just was trying to get back to my car.” Pointing, hopefully, that direction)

“Did you hear my friend in the other squad car trying to talk to you?” (“No sir, I really did not. I had my iPod on, and didn’t hear a thing…”)

“Didn’t you know you were going to the wrong place?” (“Eventually…yes, I did”)

“You know, your bike helmet wouldn’t have helped you much with those 100 ton bridge trusses that are about to be there,  falling on you.” (“Yes sir, I am sure you’re right.”)

“That wouldn’t have been good, would it have?” (“No sir, you are right about that.”)

“You know, we’re just out here trying to help you. We had another path that to divert you to, so you could have gotten to your car. You should pay closer attention while you are riding.”

Pause.

At this point, he appears to be out of questions.

But then, he asks one more. One that, in my case, has been known to shift many a conversations.

“So, what do you do for living?” he said.

“I’m a United Methodist Minister.”

And at this point –as any of your clergy friends will no doubt tell you has happened them– his entire demeanor shifted.

“A minister?”

“Yes sir, that’s right.”

“Huh,” he said.

“I guess you’re the one usually doing the sermons,” he noted, a bit sheepishly.

We both laughed. He gave me back my license. He told me to be careful and to try to listen more.

Then, he said this: “It’s been a long day…Did you hear about young girl who got raped this morning?”

“No, I haven’t,” I replied.

But I have now. he was talking about this horrible story in our local news this week.

He said, “I was with the group that found her.”

And at this, he looked as if he was about to break down.

He said, “We found her naked behind some stores, and we found the guy who did it trying to wash himself off in a nearby creek.”

The cop said these words, as if he was trying to wash something off himself too.

“I was supposed to have the day off before coming out here tonight,” he said, “but instead I only got about 45 minutes. It was just enough to go home, hug my girlfriend, and hug and her 17-year-old daughter too.”

Through all of this, he literally looked like he might break down at any moment. And, of course, as the father of a daughter, I felt it too.

I said, “I know your job is very hard, and I can’t imagine all the things you guys see and what you have to deal with. Thanks for all that you do for all of us.”

He nodded, almost imperceptibly. Thanked me. We shook hands. And I went on my way.
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I tell this story, recognizing that, for better or worse, most folks wouldn’t have gotten the “pass” he gave me. That is true.

But, then, he wouldn’t have opened up to most people like he did either. It ended up being a pretty nice moment, and in the end I felt a flood of compassion for him.

And, like I said at the start, the whole encounter has got me thinking of how how often certain respect, authority, and behavior is dictated simply by how we perceive the “role” of the person we’re talking to.

A cop –with his badge and uniform– begins the traditional cop “bluster,” almost like a rote speech.

But how many ministers do that too? Tons. They just parrot things back, with no feeling or connection. How many times do we clergy hide behind our roles, and either not seek, nor find, a real human connection with others?

Of course, I wonder if I’d said, “I’m a singer-songwriter,” what reaction that would have evoked in him. Who knows? Maybe he plays bass in his spare time.

What I know is, that just saying the words “I’m a United Methodist Minister,” suddenly changed me from a sweaty, goatee wearing, law-breaking cyclist; and into someone he felt a need to share with.

I’m still the same guy, the moment before I say those words to him, but he doesn’t know that because he doesn’t know me. And, in truth, he still doesn’t know me the moment after I say it either. Heck, I could be lying for all he knows.

But he grants me a kind of emotional openness into his life, just based on my title; in much the same way people grant him certain authority/respect, just because of the badge/uniform.

He made the choice to see me differently.

And, I suppose I did too. I no longer feared another ticket. I no longer just heard the rote bluster of badge and uniform. The moment he shared that his day began by seeing a raped 17-year-old girl, the moment I saw that lump of real emotion? I suddenly saw a pained human being, with far too few places to put it all.

Just like all the rest of us, really.

We’re all out here, trying to have human experiences with others. Tender and honest ones, if we feel safe enough. We’re all out here, trying to have that same kind of connection with others, but, far too often, getting tripped up by the stereotypes.

As I rode away, I said, “Have a good night.”

“Oh, I will,” he said. “I don’t expect anything big will happen, here on the bike trail.”

(1) I’m guessing I’ll never see it again.
(2) BTW, the vast majority of these tickets were going to/from the North Texas Annual Conference over several years. I freely allow you to psychoanalyze this and come to any conclusion you wish.

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Eric Folkerth is a minister, musician, author and blogger. He has been Senior Pastor of Northaven United Methodist Church in Dallas, Texas since 2001. During his tenure, church membership has grown almost 30 percent, and a completely new church facility (sanctuary and education building) has been constructed. Northaven is a leading progressive Christian congregation in the Southwest. Northaven is an eclectic collection of gay and straight families, artists, musicians, theater folks, academic theologians, lawyers and judges (go figure), socially conscious community activists, people who don't "check their brain at the door," and a wide array of others who either see it as their "last chance" inside the "institutional church," or their first trip back in decades. Eric is an avid blogger and published author.  Eric is also an award-winning singer-songwriter, who performs throughout Texas and the Southwest. He's an engaging live performer whose first CD was released in 2000. His songs have won honorable mention in both the Billboard and Great American song contests; and he's been a finalist in the 5th Street Festival and South Florida Folk Festival songwriter competitions. Eric is also a leader of Connections, a unique band comprised of United Methodist clergy and layfolk from throughout North Texas. Connections performs "cover shows" of artists like Dan Fogelberg, Chicago, Eagles, Doobie Brothers, Billy Joel, Stevie Wonder, James Taylor and others. Their shows draw crowds of between 300 and 1,000 fans, and they have raised more than $240,000 dollars for worthy charities. Eric has led or co-led hundreds of persons on mission trips around the globe, to places such as Mexico, Haiti, Russia, and Nepal. He has worked with lay persons to build ten homes, and one Community Center, in partnership with Habitat for Humanity of Dallas. He's a popular preacher, and often tackles challenging issues of social justice in his writings and sermons. His wife, Judge Dennise Garcia, is a State District Judge for Dallas, County. As judge of the 303rd Family District Court, she consistently gets high ratings from area lawyers, and was named "best judge" by The Dallas Observer. First elected in 2004, she was the first Latina ever elected to a county-wide bench in Dallas County. She was re-elected for a third term in 2010. They have the world's best daughter, Maria, and an incredible dog, Daisy. (As always, if you like this post, then "like" this on Facebook by clicking the box below, so others can see too...)

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