A Rock Hammer, Not Resolutions

One of my favorite films is “The Shawshank Redemption.” And as the year “turns,” I am thinking about that film, about its lead character, and about a concept I write about almost every year at this time: “Resolve to Not Resolve.”

The film was based on the short story by Stephen King, called “Rita Hayworth and the Shawshank Redemption.”
(btw: spoiler alerts, and an assumed familiarity with this classic film, follow…)

Andy Dufresne (played by Tim Robbins in the film…), was an expert at how to “Resolve to Not Resolve.”

Before I get into that, it’s now time for my almost annual plea to you:

If you want to do great things in 2019, whatever you do, DON’T make public New Year’s Resolutions.
Don’t make a big, outward show of the inward changes you want to make in your life.
Instead, as NIKE says, “Just do it.”

I first learned this from entrepreneur, Derek Sivers, and his TED Talk. The moment I heard it the concept, I knew I was hearing something deeply wise that I needed to pay attention to. (The next section is lifted from some previous writing I’ve done on this…)

Sivers cites this data: “Tests done since 1933 show that people who talk about their intentions are less likely to make them happen. Announcing your plans to others satisfies your self-identity just enough that you’re less motivated to do the hard work needed.“

Interesting, huh?

The psychology is like this:
— You resolve to be a runner.
— You tell everybody.
— You do out and buy running shoes.
— You admire your new shoes, and your brain says “HEY! I’m a runner.”
— You never, or rarely, ever do actual running.

Since I first wrote that last series of sentences, I’ve learned much more about brain chemistry and function. I’ve learned that when brain scientists hook us up to machines they find that THINKING about a thing is exactly the same as DOING a thing….at least inside the brain. Right down to a slight release of feel-good dopamine.

We THINK about being a runner?
We trick ourselves into believing we have ALREADY run…that we are already a runner.

When, in fact, all we’ve done is buy the shoes.

BTW, the department stores?

They KNOW you’re gonna do this. Pay attention. They put the running shoes, the exercise equipment, the spandex pants…right up in the front window during these weeks of late December/January.

They don’t *care* whether or not you will ever BE a runner.
They care about selling you the shoes.

So, how do we make progress toward our goals this year?

First, don’t make public resolutions.
Or, if you do, understand that the public resolution by itself is never enough. It’s not enough to just DECLARE it.
You’ve got to “Just DO it.”

The problem for many of us is that resolutions function as this very kind of short-circuit I’ve been describing here. We fail at resolutions, not because we are inherently weak, but because resolutions are never enough on their own.

Now, *some* folks do seem to understand and embrace this difference between being and doing. They make a resolution, and then they do it. And then they report back on how they have done it.

I both admire and HATE those guys.

Because it never works that way for me. I make the resolution, and I end up stopping there.

For me what’s become far more important is “holding an inward intention.”

Inwardly. Meaning: without telling anyone. But, instead, by DOING small things toward the goal every day.

Being a runner means resolving INWARDLY to do it. It’s not about the gear. It’s not about *one* Saturday you actually get out a run. It’s about *every day.*
Being a songwriter isn’t about wearing a black leather jacket, and striking a pose. It’s about writing songs and learning the craft.
Being a cyclist isn’t about wearing a yellow jersey or tight shorts. It’s about working at being a cyclist every day. It’s about riding when you don’t want to, and when the weather is bad.

Whatever your goal…being a runner…or a cyclist….or a novelist….or a songwriter….an entrepreneur…or anything else….it’s about being these things EVERY day.

Inwardly, not just outwardly.

And this is where Andy Dufresne steps in as our Patron Saint of “Just Do It.”

Be Andy Dufresne. Be the one who is in PRISON, and yet never loses hope. Be the one who works a little, every day, for YEARS toward their goal.

Be that one who chips away at overwhelming stone with a small rock hammer.

He never quits. He never stops. And! He never tells a soul what he’s doing.

For all the world knows (even his closest friends), he just looks up at that movie poster on his wall. (In the book, it’s Rita Hayworth. In the movie, it’s Raquel Welch.

Day after day, everyone else in the external world thinks Andy is leering at Raquel.

What he’s really doing is looking at his path to freedom….the hole he is slowly digging behind…

At one point Andy Dufresne says this: “That there are things in this world not carved out of gray stone. That there’s a small place inside of us they can never lock away, and that place is called hope.”

Hope, in the spiritual sense, is always beyond the event-horizon of this world. But, to KEEP hope, we need small victories along the way. And, if our hope is to do great things, we must allow those small victories to light the path of our future hope, and not depress us that we have not travelled farther.

It’s tricky. Too much contentment and self-satisfaction can lead us to believe we are “done,” when we are very much still “digging.” Too much desire to change NOW can lead us to believe the stone is too thick, and the hammer too small, and the task impossible.

In th end, whatever goals you may have for this coming year, I’m here to tell you that you can do them.

But it’s far more important to be Andy Dufresne every single day, than to just publish a resolution on New Year’s Day.

It’s far more important to hold an interior intention that you work toward with singularity and focus, than to surround yourself with external trappings and markers.

Resolve to not resolve. Resolve to just do it.

Lift up your rock hammer, and start chipping away at the stone.

And, next year on this same day?

You’ll be amazed how far you’ve come.

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Eric Folkerth is a minister, musician, author and blogger. He is Senior Pastor of The Woods United Methodist Church in Grand Prairie, Texas. For seventeen years, he was pastor at Northaven UMC in Dallas, Texas. Eric is an avid blogger and published author. Eric is also an award-winning singer-songwriter, who performs throughout Texas and the Southwest. He's won honorable mention in both the Billboard and Great American song contests; and he's been a finalist in the 5th Street Festival and South Florida Folk Festival songwriter competitions. Eric is also a leader of Connections, a unique band comprised of United Methodist clergy and layfolk from throughout North Texas. Connections performs "cover shows" of artists like Dan Fogelberg, Chicago, Eagles, Doobie Brothers, Billy Joel, Stevie Wonder, James Taylor and others. Their shows draw crowds of between 300 and 1,000 fans, and they have raised more than $240,000 dollars for worthy charities. Eric has led or co-led hundreds of persons on mission trips around the globe, to places such as Mexico, Haiti, Russia, and Nepal. He has worked with lay persons to build ten homes, and one Community Center, in partnership with Habitat for Humanity of Dallas. He's a popular preacher, and often tackles challenging issues of social justice in his writings and sermons. His wife, Judge Dennise Garcia, is a State District Judge for Dallas, County. As judge of the 303rd Family District Court, she consistently gets high ratings from area lawyers, and was named "best judge" by The Dallas Observer. First elected in 2004, she was the first Latina ever elected to a county-wide bench in Dallas County. She was re-elected for a third term in 2010. They have the world's best daughter, Maria, and an incredible dog, Daisy.

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