Nineteen Years

Today is our 19-year anniversary.

Hard to imagine that so much time has gone by.

On our one year anniversary, Dennise said something like “Wow, the year has really flown.”

I replied, inelegantly, “Are you kidding? It’s been the longest year of my life.”

It wasn’t as bad as it sounds. Well, maybe it was. I paid for that one, and I deserved it.

I meant that a lot of things had happened and it felt like a long year.

Now? The time seems like it’s flown. I cannot fathom that almost 20 years has passed. It seems like a dream. It seems like yesterday. All the cliches fit. The time passes SO quickly.

OK, now for the truth. I love her more today than I ever imagined I could. Especially in these last few years, thing seem to really be clicking on a very deep, very powerful, level. I’m not sure what accounts for all it. It just feels like we’re a team. It feels like we’re more understanding and caring of each other.

Maybe it’s that we let things go. Maybe it’s that we’re more willing to work through things. Maybe it’s age. Maybe it’s good therapy. Maybe all this and more.

I hear horror stories of marriages that just drift off into painful disconnection.

I am so pleased that’s not happening with us.

As happens many years, our Anniversary falls during the Kerrville Folk Festival. So, I am here, writing these words. And she’s at home today. Again, another example of just how awesome she is.

Dennise: I love you….and…

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Eric Folkerth is a minister, musician, author and blogger. He is Senior Pastor of Kessler Park UMC United Methodist Church in Dallas, Texas. Previously, he was pastor at Northaven UMC in Dallas for seventeen years. Eric loves to write on topics of spirituality, social justice, music/art and politics. The entries on this blog reflect that diversity of interests. His passion for social justice goes beyond mere words. He’s been arrested at the White House, defending immigrants and “The Dreamers,” and he’s officiated at same sex weddings in his churches, in defiance of what some believe is Methodist teaching. Eric is an avid blogger and published author, and 2017 recipient of the prestigeous Kuchling Humanitarian Award from Dallas’ Black Tie Dinner. (Human Rights Campaign) Eric has led or co-led hundreds of persons on mission trips around the globe, to places such as Mexico, Haiti, Russia, and Nepal. He has worked with lay persons to build ten homes, and one Community Center, in partnership with Habitat for Humanity of Dallas. He’s a popular preacher, and often tackles challenging issues of social justice in his writings and sermons. His wife, Judge Dennise Garcia, is a State District Judge for Dallas, County. As judge of the 303rd Family District Court, she consistently gets high ratings from area lawyers, and was named “best judge” by The Dallas Observer. First elected in 2004, she was the first Latina ever elected to a county-wide bench in Dallas County, and is currently the longest service district judge in that district. She was re-elected for a fourth term in 2018. They have the world’s best daughter, Maria, and an incredible dog, Daisy. Find links to Eric’s music-related websites, at the top of this site’s navigation menu.

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