Nineteen Years

Today is our 19-year anniversary.

Hard to imagine that so much time has gone by.

On our one year anniversary, Dennise said something like “Wow, the year has really flown.”

I replied, inelegantly, “Are you kidding? It’s been the longest year of my life.”

It wasn’t as bad as it sounds. Well, maybe it was. I paid for that one, and I deserved it.

I meant that a lot of things had happened and it felt like a long year.

Now? The time seems like it’s flown. I cannot fathom that almost 20 years has passed. It seems like a dream. It seems like yesterday. All the cliches fit. The time passes SO quickly.

OK, now for the truth. I love her more today than I ever imagined I could. Especially in these last few years, thing seem to really be clicking on a very deep, very powerful, level. I’m not sure what accounts for all it. It just feels like we’re a team. It feels like we’re more understanding and caring of each other.

Maybe it’s that we let things go. Maybe it’s that we’re more willing to work through things. Maybe it’s age. Maybe it’s good therapy. Maybe all this and more.

I hear horror stories of marriages that just drift off into painful disconnection.

I am so pleased that’s not happening with us.

As happens many years, our Anniversary falls during the Kerrville Folk Festival. So, I am here, writing these words. And she’s at home today. Again, another example of just how awesome she is.

Dennise: I love you….and…


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Eric Folkerth is a minister, musician, author and blogger. He is Senior Pastor of The Woods United Methodist Church in Grand Prairie, Texas. For seventeen years, he was pastor at Northaven UMC in Dallas, Texas. Eric is an avid blogger and published author. Eric is also an award-winning singer-songwriter, who performs throughout Texas and the Southwest. He's won honorable mention in both the Billboard and Great American song contests; and he's been a finalist in the 5th Street Festival and South Florida Folk Festival songwriter competitions. Eric is also a leader of Connections, a unique band comprised of United Methodist clergy and layfolk from throughout North Texas. Connections performs "cover shows" of artists like Dan Fogelberg, Chicago, Eagles, Doobie Brothers, Billy Joel, Stevie Wonder, James Taylor and others. Their shows draw crowds of between 300 and 1,000 fans, and they have raised more than $240,000 dollars for worthy charities. Eric has led or co-led hundreds of persons on mission trips around the globe, to places such as Mexico, Haiti, Russia, and Nepal. He has worked with lay persons to build ten homes, and one Community Center, in partnership with Habitat for Humanity of Dallas. He's a popular preacher, and often tackles challenging issues of social justice in his writings and sermons. His wife, Judge Dennise Garcia, is a State District Judge for Dallas, County. As judge of the 303rd Family District Court, she consistently gets high ratings from area lawyers, and was named "best judge" by The Dallas Observer. First elected in 2004, she was the first Latina ever elected to a county-wide bench in Dallas County. She was re-elected for a third term in 2010. They have the world's best daughter, Maria, and an incredible dog, Daisy.

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