My Father’s Workbench

My Mother is moving. It’s a good thing. Downsizing. Big estate/garage sale on the day after Thanksgiving. Our own family-led “Black Friday.” Pray for us… But it means we are disassembling the home where she and Dad lived for 40 years. Closet-by-closet, room-by-room, we are pulling out all the lovingly stored items. “We,” by the […]

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Bishop John Wesley Hardt

Bishop John Wesley Hardt has died. I just heard the news. It happened a few hours earlier today. This makes me incredibly sad, as I know it does generations of Methodists here in Texas. If you are a Methodist in Texas, it’s likely you have a John Wesley Hardt story. I also have one. And […]

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Adam West

When I was a kid, I never grasped that Adam West’s TV “Batman” was kitschy, ironic, and sarcastic. I just though it was cool. Like Pixar movies today, that TV show worked on several levels. Adults reveled in the cool 60s references, and sexual innuendo. I was five. All that went over my head. To […]

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Remembering Ken Foree

Ken Foree has died. Dr. Ken Foree lived a long and beautiful life, and died at his home this week, at age 91. As I have said many times over the years, Ken Foree was one of the kindest, most compassion, and most generous human beings I have ever known. He has a quiet, slow […]

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“A great time to be alive…” (My Eulogy for Jack Evans)

Jack Evans was truly a larger than life human being who, along with his husband George, got too live through momentous and positive changes for LGBTQ people. I have said many times, say it again now, Jack and George have taught my wife and me a lot about what it takes to make a relationship […]

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Glenn Frey

Been away from home all day and now that I’m home, I’m feeling the full weight of Glenn Frey’s passing. Unreal. So strange to come home, open up the computer, and see that the Wikipedia entry already says “Glenn Frey was an American singer, songwriter…” Wait. Was?! Jeez… Can’t they give us a few days […]

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When Death Comes Like a Friend

Even in the midst of grieving my Dad’s death this Thanksgiving Week, I wanted to tell you what I am thankful for this year. Because even in the midst of our family’s loss, there is one thing that I know we all agree on that we are thankful for this Thanksgiving. But since I’m blogging, […]

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Goodbye, Cold Warrior. Goodbye, Dad.

My Dad and I are standing thirty yards from each other, perfectly still and quiet, on the side of a hill, in a small grove of trees. We are looking intently at each other. But we are not really looking at each other at all. It’s a cold winter day in early 1997. Dad and […]

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Dad Died Today

Friends, My Father passed away about 1 pm this afternoon, here at home. His condition had been deteriorating quickly. But this really caught us all off guard in terms of speed. However, we are all in agreement that this is a blessing. He was not in pain. And he was enough of a control freak […]

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Breath

(Friends: Today, I’m adding some original FB posts to my blog…posts I’ve made about my Dad in recent months…so that they are captured for posterity here…apologies for all these coming through your feed today….but thanks for understanding the need to keep the history…EF) I’ve been thinking a lot lately about breath. Those of you who […]

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